Monday, June 17, 2013

Seven Things Pastors Would Like Church Members to Know about their Children

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Last week Thom Rainer, the president of Lifeway, put up a blog post called Seven Things Pastors Would Like Church Members to Know about their Children.  It was drawn from a twitter poll he did. I appreciated seeing a ministry leader giving thought and concern to this issue. Here the three answers I resonated with most. 
Don’t expect more out of pastors’ kids (PKs) than any other kids. “My children need to have the same expectations as the other children in the church. They are not some kind of spiritual superstars because their dad’s a pastor.”
Please offer encouragement to my children. “It’s not always easy to be a PK. The glass house thing is real. I am so thankful for the church members who go out of their way to encourage my children.”
Our kids see and hear more than you may think. “After one particularly tough church business meeting, my seven-year-old boy asked me if I was going to get fired.”
There is a lot to be said about these and there are loads that could be added to the list. It's encouraging that pastors are aware of these, but I wonder if they aware of just how deep some these challenges run? I wonder if they realize that they are the most significant person in overcoming these challenges? It's good to make church members aware, but nobody matters more in helping a PK that the pastor himself. 

Pastors, make the church aware, yes. But own these challenges as yours and help your kids in every way possible. They (we) want and need it.

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Who's The Best? Comparison Ruins Appreciation.

From my weekly article at Worldmag.com:

Here we are in the middle of the NBA Finals and a debate rages. It is not about whether the Miami Heat or San Antonio Spurs will win. It is not about whether Tim Duncan will win his fifth title. No, the question up for debate is whether Lebron James is as good as Michael Jordan. Let me settle this one: Lebron James is not Michael Jordan—he’s not even close. And I’m not even a Jordan fan. Michael Jordan was a once-in-a-lifetime basketball player. Lebron James is merely once-in-a-generation. In fact, I am not certain why this comparison persists in the media, at sports bars, and in living rooms across America. Actually, I do know why: The question of “Which athlete is better?” is one of the most consistently engaging debates sports fans have. We love the comparison game.
 But so what if Lebron is no MJ? To get caught up in the comparison is to miss something important (and obvious). Lebron James is too good to not appreciate. This doesn’t mean we have to like him or root for him, but only a fool would fail to appreciate his greatness. No matter what you think of his history or histrionics, James deserves the appreciation of every basketball fan.
 Comparisons are poison to appreciation. . .

Read the full article HERE. 

Friday, June 14, 2013

If You Love Words You'll Love This

Fascinating heat map portrayal of what terms are used for different things in various regions of the country (eg. water fountain vs. drinking fountain).

And for the record, pop is what I do to balloons or to someone who threatens my family. It is not a beverage. 

1. Basically no one calls it a soft drink.

Basically no one calls it a soft drink.

2. Y’all know that Kentucky is the only state where people really say “you all”?

Y'all know that Kentucky is the only state where people really say "you all"?

3. Philadelphia loves its hoagies, but it’s a sub pretty much everywhere else.

Philadelphia loves its hoagies, but it's a sub pretty much everywhere else.

You can look at all eleven of these awesome maps HERE.

Monday, June 10, 2013

Success Should Never Rest on One


I have been watching Band of Brothers, the HBO mini series based on the experiences of Easy Company and the 101st Airborne in Europe during World War 2. It is a remarkable series, one of the best stories I have ever watched for a dozen reasons. One of these is the way every man continually stepped up to do his duty, and, if the situation demanded it, the duties of a comrade or even commanding officer. Time and again, a lower ranking soldier filled a void left by an officer who was either promoted or a casualty. And the 101st Airborne forged on, battle after battle, no matter what.

The more an organization – military, business, ministry, or sports team – depends on a single person the more it is at risk. At smaller organizations this is often necessitated and on a sports team often the talents of a particular player are irreplaceable. Oddly, though, in larger organizations where such a structure could be avoided it happens by choice (or habit). All the decisions run through the CEO or some other hierarchical process that creates a bottle neck, so even though the organization has more resources it doesn’t actually utilize them.

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Another account from World War 2 comes from the opposite side of the world, in the Pacific arena. (I believe it is from the book Flags of Our Fathers, by James Bradley - another fantastic story.) It is the story of how a beleaguered U.S. military force often gained an advantage over the Japanese – because of chain of command. Every man in an American unit was trained and drilled and drilled and trained to know the process, protocol, and objective of every mission. So no matter what happened to the officers, the next man in line could carry out the duties necessary to complete the mission. For the Japanese, though, the totalitarian, dictatorial style of military leadership created highly trained, passionate soldiers who would do anything for their cause but were utterly dependent on their superiors for direction. So if a Japanese officer was killed the morale and the mission of the remaining soldiers was undermined. The American soldiers learned quickly that a key to victory was to take out the Japanese officers, leaving their underlings directionless.

This is a perfect illustration of the risk that lies in depending too much on a single person in any organization. The military has it’s chain of command. Sports have backups and second teams. Churches and businesses have. . .what, exactly? Often they have employees who are trained in a single role and unaware of what it takes to do another. They know the demands of their job but are not clued in to the greater mission and cause and the specific strategy being used to accomplish it. And so when a leader leaves there is a gaping hole with nobody prepared to fill it. And the mission suffers.

Rather than such a fiasco, organizations should clearly emphasize the mission and the strategy to all employees so that everyone knows where they are going and what they are doing. Leaders should delegate and share tasks so that those underneath them can gain an understanding, bit by bit, of what it takes to be the lead “officer”. And employees at all levels should be trained in skills and duties outside of their specific role so that when a void occurs in staffing someone already part of the mission is prepared to fill it. Employees need opportunities to be part of a variety of tasks and responsibilities so they can gain understanding, empathy, and the necessary skills to be part of the entire mission.


Ultimately, every employee ought to seek to be irreplaceable by being multi-skilled and mission focused. He should be able to fill multiple needs, even if it’s just temporarily. And every employer or leader should create a context in which any employee can be replaced at any time by a fellow member of the team should the need arise. Instead of creating limited automatons, leaders should be forming multi-talented leaders-in waiting as much as they can.   

Friday, June 7, 2013

Cheating's Shrapnel Flies Fast and Far

From my weekly article at WorldMag.com:


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If you follow professional baseball you’ve likely heard the name Biogenesis by now. It is the now defunct clinic in Miami that has been linked to at least 20 players as a provider of Performance Enhancing Drugs (PEDs). Now that Tony Bosch, the founder of Biogenesis, has agreed to cooperate with investigators from MLB, the story has taken off. All those 20 players, including current and former stars like Ryan Braun and Alex Rodriguez, now face the possibility of significant suspensions as MLB begins an aggressive pursuit of justice.
 While all this was going in the world of baseball, another story crossed the wires this past week that bears some similarities. Nike announced that it would end its partnership with Lance Armstrong’s charity, Livestrong, with its popular wrist bands and bold yellow workout gear. Earlier this year the United States Anti Doping Agency stripped Armstrong, a former seven-time Tour de France winner, of all seven titles because of his PED use. 
 Both of these instances tell a story of cheating, of decisions being made by individual people with thoughts only of themselves in order to gain an advantage. Whether they thought of anyone else as they cheated or whether they considered the consequences, this we know: They determined that that the benefits of cheating outweighed those considerations.
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Read the full article HERE.