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Pastors and Their Kids: An Interview with Matt Chandler

Most pastors love their kids deeply. They have dreams for them and hopes. They want the best for them and work to provide it. Like all of us, they are fallible. And when you add the (enormous) pressure of ministry to that fallibility, being a parent gets really difficult. I’ve reached out to several pastors to hear from them about their relationships with their kids. I’ve written a fair amount about being a PK from a PK’s perspective, but I think hearing from pastors is also helpful. It’s too easy to get jaded or lose perspective. Both sides of the story need to be told. Here is the fourteenth and final interview.


Matt Chandler has been the lead pastor of teaching at The Village Church, a multi-site church across the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex, since 2002. He is the President of the Acts 29 Network and has authored or co-authored four books: The Explicit Gospel, Creature of the Word, To Live is Christ to Die is Gain, and Recovering Redemption. Matt is married to Lauren and they have three children. In November of 2009, Matt was diagnosed with brain cancer and is committed to using the remaining days God gives him to proclaim Jesus.


What is your greatest hope for your children? 

I know this will sound canned, but easily my greatest hope for my children is that they would treasure and love Jesus deeply. When I think about them as adults that thought dominates my imagination. As I think of them as married or as parents, etc., I picture and pray for them to treasure Jesus in those roles, to sense His approval and delight in them as a mom or dad, husband or wife.


What is the greatest struggle you face in parenting as a pastor? 

As a parent who is also a pastor the greatest struggle is the unrealistic expectations both on my kids and my wife and me. Many people either expect perfection or weirdly celebrate when my kids act like kids. The truth is Lauren and I are doing the best we know to do and the kids are just that, kids. Some days they encourage us with their politeness and thoughtfulness and others they are rude and selfish. Like all other parents we are addressing these things as they come up.


How do you help your kids manage the expectations placed on them as PKs?

We talk a lot about what our expectations are and the differences between our expectations and everyone else’s. Lauren and I try hard to stay tuned in to their hearts and address the fears that can creep in and the pressure to perform for people.


First Interview: Darrin Patrick

Second Interview: Eric Geiger

Third Interview: D.A. Horton

Fourth Interview: Justin Buzzard

Fifth Interview: Jud Wilhite

Sixth Interview: Derwin Gray 

Seventh Interview: Stephen Miller

Eighth Interview: Kevin Peck

Ninth Interview: Josh Moody

Tenth Interview: Matt Carter

Eleventh Interview: Ed Stetzer

Twelfth Interview: Cole Brown

Thirteenth Interview: Dan Kimball

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Jun 24, 2014

I’d be interested to know what ages Matt’s children are when you interviewed him. Also do any of the guys you interviewed have grown children?

Jun 24, 2014

Thanks for doing all these interviews Barnabas! There are many PK’s out there that appreciate your work. What are the ages of Matt’s kids? Also did any of the pastors that you interviewed have adult children?

    Jun 24, 2014


    I don’t think any of them have grown children yet. I specifically tried to interview pastors still in the midst of raising kids. If it helps *I’m* an adult PK.

Jun 27, 2014

Ok, I see! Maybe you should interview your dad then.

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